Public Service Announcement (for rapists)
April 6, 2010
After hearing so many blame-the-victim rape prevention “tips” I was afraid to watch these, even if someone as perceptive as Marcella posted them first. Fear not, these are AWESOME!
Tip#1: Clearly state your needs and desires.
Tip#2: Use the Buddy System.
Tip#3: Call for help
Marcella didn’t post the third one, and I’m taking a guess as to why she didn’t. The third video misses the mark just a tad and yet an obvious reason for it’s lack doesn’t leap out at me. Perhaps you can figure it out. The concept itself when written appears to get the point across effectively, so I’m wondering why the visual interpretation seems to be missing something. Or maybe it’s just me.
Is it that the first two were so perfect, or is it that most rapes are committed by someone known to the victim and the focus on stranger rapes always seems to me to be an excuse not to focus on the most common type of perpetrator? You know, that really cute guy down the hall who is so sweet and innocent and admires your personality? I think I liked the first one so much because it was clear that the two people were on a date, which was going rather well for both of them, right up until PsychoMan makes his move. The second video clearly showed the psychopath’s premeditative intent and also the strategy he was using.
From a guy’s perspective, one who isn’t utilizing rape as a get-to-know-you technique, those first two videos are likely to make him realize what feminists have been trying to tell him all along — that no he doesn’t do any of that crap. Seems like it would defuse some defensiveness, which would then allow the genuinely nice guy (all five of them) to see rape from a female’s perspective instead of being caught in the endless loop of defensiveness-excuse-blindness. From a woman’s perspective, those first two are likely to make her focus on the nice “trustworthy” guy, whom I loathe.
Anyway, these are AWESOME, and are created by the utterly fabulous folks at the sexual violence center — that link leads directly to their stats page, which is helpful to have handy all in one place. I’m posting this to encourage them to make MOAR.